Joy & Sorrow

Dad died peacefully just before seven this morning. Now that we've all said our goodbyes, the work of grieving begins in full as we commend him into God's hands. Though Augsburg won't mention it in the little red book next year, from this day forward, June 17 will be the commemoration of Gerald of Hartford, Renewer of Society. Let light perpetual shine upon him, and may he rest in peace.

Wedding Mania

Two down and one to go! June is still one of the most popular months for a wedding and this June is no exception. Weddings are a real challenge, while they are almost always joyous occasions, it can be hard to find a deeper Gospel message in the midst of the glitter, the fancy clothing and the party-goers. Even though the wedding preparation process is first and foremost for the couple, in my listening to their story I discover some of what will form the basis for a wedding sermon. Unlike a typical Eucharist, where the assembly is addressed as Christian community, or a funeral where the assembly is addressed as those who mourn, at a wedding, the assembly is addressed through the couple. My message for them, as Christocentric as possible, flows through the celebration of their relationship to the gathered friends and family.

I spent last night on a cot in the hospital, keeping an eye on my father and giving him Celtics updates, a truly surreal experience even for someone who has covered overnight and 24 hour shifts as a hospital chaplain. It's hard to say what today will bring, but every day brings subtle changes that reflect new aspects of the dying process. With great wisdom, my mother reflected on how the travail of birth is so oddly mirrored in the slow and difficult process of death.

Lutherans Assemble!!

Okay, so it's not as flashy as the Avengers getting together to save the world, but I had a great time (if a bit exhausting) at the New England Synod Assembly. This assembly was special to me for a few reasons. First, it was my first assembly as a clergy voting member. Secondly it was the first opportunity for our summer immersion student to observe the larger church conducting itself in business, worship, sharing and discernment. Finally, I was able to witness the ordination of two colleagues from Philadelphia seminary who have been called to serve here in New England. All around a momentous affair. The hearings, elections and business went smoothly and peaceably, and the worship was amazing. From belting out hymns in the assembly hall to our festive Eucharist on Friday, everything both went well and had a spectacular feel to it. Kudos to the Trinity Choir, to Donald our choir leader and to Steve our guest organist. Your worship leadership was excellent.

This Assembly was also challenging, not because of the early mornings and the late finishes, but because of some other things that bumped into it. There was a wedding rehearsal Thursday and a Wedding Saturday that took time and energy. There was lots of planning and finalizing for Sunday. During the assembly, I received news that my father, who was undergoing treatment for lymphoma was discontinuing treatment and entering a hospice program. Sara and I spent time with him and other family members on Sunday so that we could celebrate Father's Day a week early. It was the best Father's Day and the hardest Father's Day ever. I give thanks to God for the gift of faith that has allowed me to face these trying times with a sense of peace and a deep seated hope. The amazing support I've received from colleagues, parishioners and friends has made the entire ordeal much more bearable. It was so moving to be prayed for at the assembly, by brothers and sisters I know well, and those I have yet to meet.